I have often observed a tendency in analyzing our new acquaintances in easy personality traits as “timid”, friendly”, “extrovert”, “outgoing”, “antisocial”, “messy”, “oversensitive”, etc.
And at a first glance the view might be valid, for those of us which have never got a deeper insight in why our fellow colleagues act the way they do.
On the other side, for those who had the chance of exploring other cultures and way of perceiving life, the truth gets a bit more complex.
The road of a successful communication is paved with a deeper understanding of our interlocutor, judging by our first impression on personality traits, can lead to misunderstanding and confusion.
Our personality as an individual, draws it’s meaning trough the context of our own culture and has to be deeper analyzed when compared with other cultural contexts.
Have you ever wonder how come for a German, a French guy may seen as “showing off” as a “sophisticated extrovert”, when for an American, the same guy is perceived as close within and analytical?!?!?
Have you wonder why a Japanese is perceived as a great communicator by its fallows Asian cultures while for a British, the communication might be difficult and imprecise?!?!?
We might consider ourselves great communicators, but what exactly is a “great communicator”?
In US the communication is always flowing a straight-foreword manner. Simplicity and structure are the assets of a well delivered message.
France will opt for a more stylish approach, placing ” the way you speak” high above what is said.
Delivery of facts makes for Germany the main point required in a good communication. While in the majority of the Arabic countries, the emotions and the connection you reach trough your communication are preferred, most of the time to facts and structure.
As a last example the Asian stile of communication will put the accent on contextual interpretation and reading between the lines.
So knowing all this, what makes a good communication??
Is it the greatness of our speech? Or our capacity of molding our message in a way that our receiver can get our point?
We can reach a good communication just when, exposed to a public with a totally different perception of things, our message can be transformed/ translated into the receiver’s cultural vision.